If you are estranged from your child, you’re in a battle that requires Spiritual warfare.

I believe that every family estrangement between an adult child and their parent has an underpinning of spiritual warfare. So it’s important to be aware of the ways the spiritual realm factors into the estrangement you’re going through with your child. You might actually be in a spiritual agreement with the enemy that’s impacting the estrangement, without even realizing it.

In this podcast episode (and blog post), I’ll walk you through…

The analogy that clearly shows you why you must fight hard in this battle
4 spiritual agreements with satan that work against reconciliation with your estranged child
What to do if you have entered into any of these 4 spiritual agreements with the devil

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Every family estrangement from an adult child has a spiritual component to it. It is an attack against your family, your child… and specifically against you.

The devil knows that the way to knock you down is through your child. Oh yes, he knows that to level you, he goes through your child or children.

Listen, I know you grow tired or feel fear sometimes. Maybe you feel like you don’t have any fight left in you, but you do.

be willing to go to Spiritual battle.

When your child was little, and you were carrying them to the car in a grocery store parking lot, if an attacker had come at you and tried to rip your child from your arms, I can envision you would have fought with all you had. I can envision that you would have came at him so fiercely that it would have even surprised you. Because you would have been fighting for their life.

This battle for your emotional healing and for the relationship with your son or daughter… there’s a lot at stake here. Just like you would fight with all you have in that parking lot, you have to fight with all you have in this battle too.

You might be in spiritual agreements that are working against you in the estrangement from your child.

One of the ways satan attacks you in estrangement is through agreements you might make with him, and not even be aware of that’s what you’re doing. I’m going to tell you 4 agreements you might be making with the devil that impact your emotional wellness and the relationship with your adult child.

If, at any time, you feel like you need more help with what I’m talking to you about here, go here and apply for a consultation with me, to see if we’re a fit for estrangement coaching.

Also, if you recognize that you’re making any of these 4 agreements with the devil, you need to break the agreement through prayer and repentance. Repentance involves more than saying you’re sorry. It also involves turning away from the former behavior and doing what is aligned with God’s will, instead.

The first spiritual agreement to break is: speaking poorly of your estranged child.

If you do this, you are agreeing with the devil that your child is a bad person, or will not change, or so forth. Whatever it is that you are speaking about them in a negative manner, you are creating an agreement with satan, conceding that is who your child is, or will be.

The Bible tells us that the power of life and death are in the tongue. Your words matter. Whose will are your words supporting, God’s or satan’s?

The second spiritual agreement to break is: nullifying your own prayer requests.

When you pray and ask Jesus to heal your broken relationship with your estranged child, you must know Who He is, and that He wants to give you good gifts.

If you come away from the prayer and say that you don’t think your child will ever change their mind, or “it probably won’t happen”, you’ve just nullified your own prayer. By doing that, you have come into alignment with satan’s desire, agreeing that your prayer request will not be granted to you.

The third spiritual agreement to break is: refusing to accept freedom from guilt.

Sometimes, estranged mothers remain in a place of guilt because they feel they deserve it. Or they believe that if they suffer enough, they will earn having their child back in their life.

If you received God’s forgiveness for your wrongdoing in the situation, then your transgressions have been not only forgiven by Him but also forgotten by Him.

Revelation 12:10 identifies satan as the accuser. If you keep yourself in a place of guilt after God has freed you from it, you are coming into agreement with satan that you are guilty.

The fourth spiritual agreement to break is: wearing a robe of powerlessness.

The devil would love for you to go around slump-shouldered and believing that you are powerless in the estrangement from your child. If you do that, you are unlikely to take the actions you need to take to repair the relationship with your son or daughter.

You are the medicine matriarch. You have the medicine of forgiveness and radical love, to heal your family. Through the authority of Jesus, you have so much more power in this than you might realize right now.

If you choose to wear the robe of powerlessness, you are agreeing with the devil that you are powerless.

Here’s what to do if you find that you are in any of those spiritual agreements…

If you find that you are in any of these 4 agreements with the devil, you can break those agreements today. To break the agreements, repent. Repentance is more than saying you’re sorry. Repentance also involves turning away from the behavior that you’re sorry for.

So if you identify agreements you need to break, identify the specific behavior that you need to change. Tell God you’re sorry and create a plan for turning away from that behavior in the future.

For example, if you need to break the agreement of guilt, tell God you’re sorry and ask for His forgiveness in Jesus’ name. Then, find a Scripture that you will pray over yourself every time the enemy tries to drag you back to that place of false guilt.

Decide that you will speak over it and say: “In the name of Jesus I bind all false guilt and I claim victory over guilt.” Make a plan for your change in behavior.

If you’ve found this information helpful, share it with another Christian estranged mother who might need to hear it too. Together, through Jesus, we can wage war on the devil and win.

Spiritual Warfare: Do You Need To Break Agreements With satan?